Sometimes life gets busy. You have a job to go to, chores to do, and kids to take care of. Oftentimes, doing what you want to do takes a back seat to doing the things you have to do. Even when that thing you want to do is sex.
If you've got a profile up here at Datepad or on other free internet dating sites, getting' some lovin' is probably a big part of why you're looking for a relationship in the first place. So when you're in a relationship and find yourself (or your partner finds him or herself) unable to make time for sex, it can be more than a little frustrating. And more than a little damaging to your relationship.
Fortunately, with a few tricks, you can always find time to fit a little more sex into your relationship. Read on to learn how.
Bring sex out of the bedroom.
It's common to think that, when you want to have sex or even be sexy, you have to focus on it 100%. But that's not true. If you're occupied with something else, you can still get down and dirty with your partner. Tease and talk dirty while making dinner together. Text sexy messages in the middle of the workday. Hop in the shower together first thing in the morning for a quickie. Bringing more sex into your lives doesn't have to be work-- have fun with it!
Give that kiss an extra 30 seconds.
Most of us give our partners just a quick kiss when we separate during the day. It becomes automatic. But if you want to spice things up you should start paying attention to that kiss! Give it an extra 30 seconds (and, no, those few seconds will not make you late for work!) and a little intensity, too. If you start the day a little hot, you'll be much more likely to end it that way, too.
Use that time.
We all have those short moments when we're waiting for something to happen. Your friends will be over for dinner in 15 minutes, and everything is set and ready to go. You've got to get the laundry done before you go out, but the timer on the dryer still has 10 minutes left. Use that time for a little extra lovin'! Being spontaneous is sexy-- and getting down and dirty in the time you've got --even if it's not much-- can be a lot of fun. A very intense experience.
Be naughty when your partner's busy.
Is your boyfriend on the phone with his mother, or your girlfriend trying to shop for a new duvet on eBay? Take the opportunity to be a little naughty. Come up and kiss his or her ear or neck, or even give him a little flash of flesh-- a little peek of nipple never goes unappreciated. Just because you start it doesn't mean you have to finish it; don't put any pressure on it. Just have fun being sexy together, and the sex will come all on its own.
Masturbate.
If you don't use it, you lose it. For most people, their sexuality goes into a sort of hibernation when they don't let it have free reign on occasion. Masturbating regularly ensures that you and your sexuality stay connected. It also makes your body much more sensitive to mental and physical stimulation, allowing you to get in the mood and reach climax more quickly.
Do it anyway.
It's a simple fact of being in a relationship: sometimes you're just not going to feel like having sex (though this is more true of women, it's often true of men, as well). But even when you're not in the mood, if you want to give your relationship a little spark you should do the deed anyway. Revitalize yourself with a quick shower. Put on something sexy. Light a candle. And then go at it. Chances are, you'll be very glad you did.
By Karenlyn ◊ May 13, 2009