1) He takes care of the little things in his life
I’m talking about a man who actually goes to the dentist on a somewhat regular basis, changes the oil in his car when he’s supposed to and remembers to vote in local elections. These are the tiny details of life that might not seem to make much of a difference one by one, but added up, they equal a man who is actually grown up.
Men who are grown up enough to tend to the boring details of their lives are more likely to be grown up enough to think about a more serious future with you as well.
2) He can cry
But he isn’t a weepy baby. No one likes a big ol’ weepy man-baby. But even the manliest of men shed a tear every now and then and if your guy can do so without seeing it as a huge threat to his masculinity, it not only shows that he has the capacity for deep and sincere emotion when the occasion calls for it, but that he is self-assured enough to honestly let those emotions show. Self-awareness is so the new black.
3) He gets along with his mom
This is a pretty big one as far as I’m concerned. As my shrink likes to tell me when going over for the millionth time the details of my daddy issues (whatever), the relationship you have with your father as a girl or your mother as a boy will pretty much set the stage for your relationships with the opposite sex for the rest of your life.
And as annoying as that is sometimes, it’s basically true. Simply put: if your man has a good thing going on with his mama, he’s capable of having a good, solid thing going on with other women.
4) He can complain
He isn’t a pushover. He might whine a little when you ask him to do the dinner dishes because you’re just too tired from work…but then he does them anyway. You don’t want a man who just pretends to want to do things he hates because that’s dishonest, and truthfully, a little creepy, but you also don’t want a dude who never goes outside of his preferred comfort zone to make you happy.
So unless he’s laying on the guilt real thick, a little begrudging griping before he does something helpful or nice is a good thing; it shows that he’s up front about his feelings and be cares enough about you to do it anyway.
5) You fight sometimes
Now, I’ve seen enough relationships that were essentially based on the drama of fighting and making up to know that that’s definitely not a healthy way to go. If you find yourself in one of those (you’ll know you are if the only rush you’re getting from your lover is when you’re either in the heat of an argument or the heat of make-up sex), get out now.
However, little tiffs here and there are actually great for a healthy relationship. They provide a chance to blow off some steam, say some things that you might not want to say during times of peace and hopefully, resolve some issues. The key to safe fighting? Keep to the topic, don’t blow things out of proportion, and let it resolve itself into a productive conversation at some point. Oh, and definitely go for the hot make-up sex. Always.
By Jessi_bee