Tips For Dating A Friend

A friend is a perfect dating selection—ya think? After all they know so much about you. But perhaps that might not be such a good thing. If you become “friends with benefits” and nothing else is left over, it could spell the end of the friendship. Even if the friendship remains, it still could jeopardize feeling free and close with that person before the dating began.

And what if one of you feels more for the other? How does the break up work then? Questions and more questions; the answers come down to what you each of you want.
1. What are you getting from this friendship right now?

Make sure that you really want to pursue a person past that friendship level. Once it goes to romance or getting laid, it might not return so easily, if at all, to where it once was. If the love relationship does fall apart, what would be the leftover?
2. Why do you want to date your friend at all?

Is it because you are lonely, needy or really attracted to them? Never date a friend out of pity for yourself or them. Never, ever date a friend because you are jealous of their potential happiness to find and date someone other than you.
3. Can knowing someone as a friend make dating them too comfortable?

There is that assumption that now that you are dating or sexual, you can take more liberties with the friendship than you might have taken otherwise. For example, you might feel you can now borrow money from them and not pay them back or take their car for doing your errands and not feed the gas tank.
4. Do men and women think and feel differently about sex?

Men feel physically. Women feel emotionally. Though a break up usually hurts the dumpee more than the dumper, a woman can feel it like a knife to her heart. A man can find another physical mate to get him through his pain. Feelings of resentment and anger can surface in your friendship after the loving is over.
5. If you start dating your friend, will the friendship automatically tag along?

While dating, both of you will change. Expectations become larger. You’ll get to hear their problems not from afar like before. You see their habits up close. You notice their kooky world. You may even look at them so differently after sleeping with them that you don’t like them anymore—even as a friend. Too much knowledge can be bad.
6. Can you accept him/her being with other people if there is a break up?

And can you not bring up the past while being their friend? So let’s say you break up and you have a silly friendship argument, can you not bring any relationship baggage to the table? Don’t bring up old resentments or unfinished pain that didn’t get resolved while dating your friend.

By Paige_Me